Because I don’t, and pretending to feels dishonest. I’ll listen if they want to talk about it, but I’m not going to act interested, and I certainly won’t ask about it on my own. What I’m trying to figure out is whether people actually care, or if they’re just playing a social game that I’m simply not interested in.

I’m probably on the autistic spectrum, which likely explains this to some extent. But that’s not an excuse - being an asshole is perfectly compatible with autism, so before dunking on me, please realise I probably agree with your criticism.

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    I am on the spectrum. And no, i don’t. And I don’t think of it as being an asshole, I simply don’t care about it because it just is something unimportant. I mean, if something bad happened to them, I’ll be the first one to ask, but if they are telling me how nice was their trip it’s like… well, yeah? It’s expected. You make a trip to have a good time, so of course you had a good time.

    I guess i consider it innecessary because is the expected outcome.

    With that said, I will listen to what they say and remember it, but that doesn’t mean I find it interesting unless there is something remarkable about it.

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      Do you think everyone you talk to enjoys every aspect of the things you have to talk about? Do you appreciate that they listen?

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        5 hours ago

        Honestly, I am not very talkative. I am bad at small talk so I rarely speak unless asked directly about something specific.

        Because of this, I believe that if someone asks me about something, it’s because they are interested in what I have to say about it.

        To answer your question, I will not go to tell someone about my last trip unless they ask me about it because I consider that it’s not that interesting to the others if (like I do) they are not asking about it.