Structured chaos is key
Like you build the jenga tower so that it falls down in the direction of doing the dishes.
You look at the dishes, comprehend how you would do them if you did, build a plan, then put it in the back of your mind and go about your day.
This describes my pea brain to the letter.
Like once I figure out how to do a thing, I no longer have anything interest in doing the thing.
it’s because solving the challenge of how to do it is fun and interesting whereas actually putting forth the effort in doing it sounds like work and is not fun.
Yes that is because the “how to do it” has been processed and therefore it’s as good as done.
Structure like a skeleton. Gives you the rough shape, but you have some freedom to arrange the squishy bits hanging off it.
I told my partner we had to stop scheduling our entire vacation bcz it was stressing me out.
Now we schedule one or two things in certain days and then do whatever we want, and I deal much better with that.