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NT1 to NT2: “If you ware blunt with him, it will workout.”

NT2 to me: Directly says something with clear expectations.

Me: Responds accordingly without hassle.

Them: Surprised Pikachu

Anyone else notice this repeatedly occurring in their life? For like a year, I asked friends and a therapist for insight with a trend I noticed when building relationships with new people. First, people would be cautious and think I was kind of a jerk. Then, they would think I wasn’t that bad. After that, they would be certain I was a complete jerk. I’ve even been yelled at or completely ostracized seemingly out of nowhere. If we made it far enough, something would suddenly click for them, and they would realize that I was a pretty nice person. It took me a while to figure out why this would happen so often.