I have imposter syndrome, both at work and in my relationship.

  • ouRKaoS@lemmy.today
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    5 months ago

    Posting things online.

    I have no “traditional” social media accounts, and over half the comments I type here I delete without posting. I don’t like people judging me & talking behind my back, so my introvert tendencies include semi anonymous things like Lemmy.

  • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech
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    5 months ago

    Take it from me op. Drop the imposter stuff in your relationship, that can kill a relationship. I very nearly lost my wife early on because “I just can’t believe you want to be with me”. That isn’t attractive.

    They like you, that’s why they’re with you. They weren’t tricked, you didn’t fool them, they like you. Who you are. All you gotta do is like them back :)

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    I have a mild speech impairment. I don’t stutter on a daily basis but when I’m under heavy stress or when I’m tired I tend to stutter-ish. On top of that I live in a country where I don’t speak in my native language and sometimes I feel self-conscious about small mistakes I make (like using the wrong word or messing up the grammar) which induces the stress response. It’s not a big deal but it makes me crazy when I can’t express my thoughts in public.

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      5 months ago

      people who shit on people for imperfect language are insecure assholes.

      it’s just as stupid online when people grammar police you for written words.

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        4 months ago

        I have this mildly interesting story. When I moved to Australia I’ve shipped whole bunch of things by sea to cut the cost. It took months to arrive but when I finally got here I had to pick up my stuff from a storage location. The best part is that because I’m a white guy the person who was designed to handle the forklift (also white) was more than helpful (despite my accent and some grammar issues). But once the delivery guys arrived (mostly middle east) he turned into racist asshole. And the “best” part was that I was part of his racial slurs, mostly because I wasn’t using proper grammar…

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      5 months ago

      I don’t mean to belittle your feelings about it, but I would find that cute af. There are certainly people around you that would feel the same.

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        4 months ago

        Well, sometimes I get away with some petty wrongdoings just because I stutter. And I’ve learned it to use it for my advantage. Just to be clear, I’m not abusing this “power”, it’s mostly “organic”.

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    5 months ago

    You ever think maybe you don’t have imposter syndrome? You’re just telling yourself you do because it feels like it, but you actually don’t have it at all.