• addictedtochaos@lemm.ee
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    3 months ago

    turns out my whole family is toxic as *hit because we all have adhd or autism, i have both. dad is autistic, mom has adhd.

    i am the only one diagnosed with treatment.

    i blocked half of my family, for good reason.

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        Oh that’s what it is. I read that as “hit” and kept looking for the closing ‘*’. That is so fucking annoying.

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        I mean, I understand what you’re saying and it is true here on lemmy, but it is absolutely not the case that you don’t have to self-censor on the internet. I mean, you can choose to not to, but some systems will just never show your contribution to the conversation to anyone (ex. tiktok, Facebook, YouTube, etc). So people practice self-censorship to engage with those platforms and then it becomes a part of their online vocabulary.

        So, you don’t need to self-censor here on lemmy, but you also shouldn’t give anyone flak for doing so.

        Umm, ffs, if I used that right.

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          No I think their point stands. There are plenty of words to choose from, you simply don’t need to say shit. Like it is quite literally that simple, use the word or don’t.

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            Exactly. I choose to not swear, so I use different vocabulary. If I do choose to swear, I’ll swear. I personally find that not swearing regularly gives a lot more weight to when I do swear.

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            Yeah, but the person is speaking to you using their vocabulary that they use day-to-day. Sure, they could pick whatever other words they want to, but doing so would fall outside of their usual vocabulary and, therefore, takes more effort than just “replace the part of this word I normally use that’s blocked by censor”. You can tie yourself into knots trying to avoid censored words and also this new requirement of only using a word by using that word.

            The point, as I see it, of “don’t use the word if you’re not going to use the word” is “don’t inconvenience me with your language, inconvenience yourself in order to not inconvenience me.” Sounds like a path to everyone second guessing everything they say in order to accommodate whatever desire other people wish to interject on your choice of words. Which, doesn’t sound very live más to me. Very un-taco bell of you (I have no idea what happened in that last part of my statement)

            Edit: easiest way to say it: you clearly knew what word they meant so why are you making a stink about it not matching exactly to that word?

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              You clearly knowing what they meant means the entire point of the censorship is lost. So at that point it’s completely unnecessary. If I can tell what you meant the censorship is just pandering to pedantic people who think swear words are uncouth.

              Just use the damn word or choose a different one. If you’re that worried about censorship you’ve solved both problems by never even letting them arise in the first place.

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              thanks, you get it. effort or inconvienience dont’ interest me, i am autistic for a reason. i just do what feels right by me. i don’t care about censorship. for me, its like using a bad word while trying to be polite, but still wantig to use the word.

              but i guess thats far to sophisticated for most people in here. they are bootlickers, so the first thing they think is censorship.-

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      Similar story here. Asperger’s runs on both of my parents’ sides of the family. In addition Dad has ADHD and mom has BPD. I ended up with the Autism+ADHD combo with sprinkling of CPTSD on top. I don’t even know where the neurological problems end and the psychological problems begin.

      Have not talked to either in well over a decade.

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        I read that adhd families are way often structured in very unhealthy was than you might think.

        my theory is, that my siblings and my mom don’t want to get diagnosed, because then they had to accept that they are defective; the are living the delusion that all their countless adhd problems are somebodies elses fault.

        they can never break out of that thinking.

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              i can’t give you a source, because, believe me, you would be looking at

              well its just to much. its biochemistry…

              look up glucose acetate metabolism, adhd glucose- insulin pathway gene defects, combine that with insuline resistance. you get the insuline resistance by craving sugar. you crave sugar because of the pathway defect; if you eat the sugar, insuline gets activated, boom you have energy.

              ritalin does essentially the same, since its a stimulant, it ramps up basal metabolic rate. if you ramp that up, the body will go into glucoseneogenesis, and insulin will also get realeased. thats why ritalin wont work or work not ideal if you dont eat; it will not work at all if you are insuline rsistant /thats different fron defective insuline realease)

              so its the release that is defective from the start.

              thats why nutrition with a focus on acetate metablisism has benefits for autism and adhd.

              thats why people crave alcohol, acetate metabolism. thats why people on antidepressants crave sweets and alcohol , antidepresesants, most of them, make you insuline resistant. thats how antidepressants slow down metabolic basal rate, and why you get fat and sedentary.

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                Interesting, I didn’t realize that ADHD and autism occur so frequently together. Also:

                Interestingly, initial small studies have explored the potential use of intranasal insulin as a therapeutic intervention for ADHD. A pilot study by Shemesh et al. (2021) found that a single dose of intranasal insulin improved cognitive performance and attention in adults with ADHD. While these results are promising, larger-scale clinical trials are needed to evaluate the safety and efficacy of this approach.

                Well, now I have a rabbit hole to go down. I hope you and your family can find something that works, healthy family relationships can be very rewarding, and avoiding them largely due to a hopefully treatable medical condition sucks. Anyway, thanks for the explanation!

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                  thanks for the link. i marked it for reading.

                  yeah, the insuline thing really makes me wonder…

                  i am very sad that my brother is deteroirating rapidly from 12 years of anti depressants. he had like shizo thoughts, which is kinda normal if you abuse alcohol and various drugs havily, and then decide to go cold turkey.

                  either way, he is loosing hair, showing all signs of malnutrition while being fat, has all kinds of ailments. his docs dont believe in adhd. my niece got diagnosed recently as well.

                  its kinda typical that adhd people can’t acknowledge adhd, because it shatters the lottle self worth they retain by claim they turned out this way because of incident X that happened at age 15, or because of hpw my father handled family life (he is not abuseisve or anything, but he is a father with autism, that can be taxing)

                  wait till you hear that keto nutrition benefits bipolar persons, binge eaters, parkinson people, epileptics, and thoses people who have severe ticks, like, tourettes.

                  why is that?

                  the answer is acetate metabolism.

                  do you want to know why canabis works?

                  canabis receptors have something to do with the insuline glucose mechanism, i don’t know yet what, i am just a former worker with no education.

                  so, take this all as my opinion.

                  but, at the other hand, biochemistry does not lie…

                  it is a very captivating topic. its my special interest for now.