• SirDerpy@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Social media didn’t exist when I was a child. I’m thankful for that because my experiences now help me quickly recognize narcissistic DARVO.

    1. Deny

    2. Attack

    3. Reversal of Victim and Offender

    It often happens in a means most succinctly expressed by The Narcissists Prayer.

    That didn’t happen.

    And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.

    And if it was, that’s not a big deal.

    And if it is, that’s not my fault.

    And if it was, I didn’t mean it.

    And if I did, you deserved it.

    A wide scope of situations can flow from the general to a fairly specific outcome: A child lacks the means to communicate righteous injustice and has a “meltdown”. The parent films it, then posts it to social media with something like, “Look what I have to put up with (laughing to tears emoji)”.