• PorradaVFR@lemmy.world
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    8 hours ago

    If that’s how you met and is only basis of interacting …. eeek, more red flags than a parade in Beijing. If you are in a healthy relationship and they happen to do OF as a money maker and you both are cool with it, that’s different.

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      7 hours ago

      If in the first date when you ask her what she do for living she answer saying you “I do OF” would you go further or would you just ask for the check and GTFO of there?

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        Man I don’t know…I wouldn’t bail, maybe it is solely a living, but consider if you’re being seen as a paycheck and nothing more.

        I guess be up front and say you’re conflicted and see the response. No reason not to enjoy dinner and a chat. Maybe a one-off and an anecdote or maybe more. Good luck either way.

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          Yeah I mean is only assumptions, I know what I would do but I’m just asking to know what other people here think about this stuff. Thx for your reply much appreciated 👍👍

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    Why do you keep asking questions about who ‘men of lemmy’ would date? Are you trying to use lemmy for social research or something?

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      Some time ago I realized Lemmy’s population have some unique demographics, maybe I’m exaggerating but apparently people here are more intelligent than other social media so I like to ask questions to know what the particular demographic of Lemmy think about. Don’t feel bad if you are not a man, I’m planning to do some only women questions also.

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        Well since the means of creating a Lemmy account has a barrier of entry, it can be argued that we may or may not be more intelligent compared to other social media users, but we are also definitely more prone to pursuing more extreme ideologies, like communism which may possibly give you a different view than a normal intelligent fellow would make in your scenario.

        Imo it’s fine for me if she does OF, but I would hope that this hobby is a side hustle for her and she also does a job in next of this, preferably a white collar job.

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          Do you believe her personality characteristics which lead her to do OF could impact her ability to be a good mother? Beside I mean the obvious downside of the availability of her explicit content all around internet could have for the involved kids.

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    I don’t like these only men / only women questions. Why don’t you judge an answer by if it’s well reasoned? You shouldn’t judge by if it’s coming from a person with a certain set of private parts.

    I mean there are exceptions. »How does it feel to be a woman? I’m interested in the woman perspective.« is a valid question. But I think if asking for broad concepts like in this case, it should be avoided.

    Regarding the OF creator question… I’m not sure. I’d date first and see if it’s a nice person before marrying. And live together for maybe half a year to assess if that’s working out. Basically the same as with any other person with regular hobbies/jobs. If that’s alright, everyone loves each other, enough boxes are ticked… I’d marry anyone. Disregarding if she’s a plumber, OF creator or computer science professor.

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    Nah, you’re alright buddy. Getting married costs a small fortune. Why spend so much on that when you can just subscribe for 5 a week.

    Besides that, no. She belongs to the streets.

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        Each to their own. It wouldn’t be for me.

        Seems like talking about marriage is too fast. Have you learned anything else about her? Do you know her outside of OF?

        It almost sounds to me like the sort of things an OF thot would say to someone spunking money on a sub… Eg, do you know her or is she trying to scam money out of you because you’re naive???