• Sierra_Is_Bee@beehaw.org
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    1 month ago

    Oh good, I was hoping to find a transition comment here as I felt the same way for a long time 😅

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      1 month ago

      And I want to make it clear I’m not even complaining OR criticizing! XD

      It’s wholesome in a peculiar way: people who want to embrace simple joy, and to love others with the same unbridled enthusiasm as dogs do? That’s beautiful and sweet deep down at the heart of it.

      Even though I KNOW that for many it’s a “sex thing”… Honestly so what. Anyone who doesn’t like it can choose to do literally anything else with their time.

      I’ve stopped caring about pointless judgement, moralizing pearl clutching hand wringing self-righteous hysterical theatrics… What a waste of time and energy when instead happiness is actually an option.

      Maybe it’s jealousy. How dare someone be happy, right? Whatever! Let them be goodgirls. There are few things more harmless than that.

      I don’t think I could ever play the role of an “owner” (apparently that’s a thing) but I’m happy when I see them, in the same way I’m happy when I see dogs. Because I see dogs.

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        1 month ago

        I mean, for most of petplay people I know it’s much more of an everyday thing than a sex thing. Which makes sense, since that’s generally more of a furry thing. It’s less about being an animal and more about being someone’s pet, very gentle sub and dom stuff. There’s a good tumblr post

        petplay? oh you mean that kink for burnt-out neurodivergent people with abandonment issues who need simple easy directions and assurance that the person giving them will still be there at the end of the night. yeah i got you i know what you’re talking about

        And like, mood.

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        1 month ago

        Oh no worries I just meant in general since I always felt like being smart sucked and I felt miserable about it, and then I transitioned haha

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          i’ve heard that too, and witnessed it happen to loved ones, that transitioning not only brightened their lives but also made them more themselves. My best friend who got married just two weeks ago, when I met her back in 2012 she had been so withdrawn and downtrodden, and it seemed like nothing any of our other friends were capable of doing could make her feel better. But then after embracing who she is, and actually BECOMING herself… she’s so vibrant now! Her artistic talent blossomed too - and the fella she married, also an artist, they make gorgeous pieces together.

          (it’s furry smut though so definitely not for everyone X3)