Things that have helped me be understood:

• Reading tons of fiction. Good storytelling is an art, and following the masters has helped me.
• Joining a men’s group. It’s helped me resolve emotional hangups that prevented me from communicating what I felt in the nonverbal signals that evoke people’s empathic response.
• Becoming a better listener. More time spent caring about others and processing others’ stories programs the brain with the common language of shared experience.