• sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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    9 hours ago

    That’s just how social expectations are. I recommend you go ask a handful of single men you know (i.e. coworkers) whether they’d consider a 1:1 outing with a woman to be a “date.” I’m guessing most would say yes.

      • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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        7 hours ago

        Exactly, they’re coworkers where OP isn’t certain if they were flirting or just being friendly, and other coworkers confirm she’s flirting. To me that means:

        • they don’t have a good enough relationship to tell the difference, so probably not “friends”
        • other coworkers don’t seem to experience the same thing
        • claims to not have other friends (surely she’d mention a BF, no?)

        So to me, that sounds very much like she’s flirting, so it’s totally understandable for OP to consider it a date.

        • JackbyDev@programming.dev
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          6 hours ago

          Facts:

          1. Anon intended for this to be a date.
          2. Anon never said this was a date.
          3. Anon never asked if she was single.