• shneancy@lemmy.world
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        7 months ago

        i have a couple of ace friends into BDSM, i myself am somewhere on the ace spectrum. And i can tell you that BDSM can be enjoyed without sex or pain, power dynamics is where the best sauce is at

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      I’ll need that explained more if you don’t mind.

      I thought the whole point of asexual was you’re just not interested in sex or anything relevant to that?

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        7 months ago

        Asexual ≠ Not Liking Sex

        Asexual = Not Feeling Sexual Attraction

        The way I usually describe it as an asexual guy is that there’s basically noone I find hot. That doesn’t mean they’re the opposite. It just like a sense I lack or a color I can’t see. I just don’t feel sexual attraction. But I do still like people based on other types of attraction and sex is still fun. For me platonic attraction is the main criteria for sexual partners. It’s just a fun activity between close friends like watching a movie or playing a board game.

        That’s not to say that there aren’t asexual people who don’t like sex because those people do exist, but how much a person likes sex is on the sex repulsion to sex favorable axis and is only tangentally related to asexuality.

        • So, technically speaking, an ace individual cannot find someone sexy? They can have sex with someone for the sake of having sex, be it for bond or pleasure or whatnot, but from what you’re saying they do not show any sexual attraction towards any demographic of people?

  • inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world
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    She still is? Being in to link has nothing to do with being ace. She may not have sexual desire or want sexual contact (which are VERY different things) is entirely seperate from the dynamics of a kink relationship.

    Anon probably isn’t being malicious, but is definitely uniformed.

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    All my homies love their chastity cages. Sure you need to lean a little to piss out of them, but aside from that there’s nothing weird about it.

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      7 months ago

      Sure you need to lean a little to piss out of them

      Fucking hell I hadn’t even thought of that. I wonder if they have that PFFFFTTTTPTTTTT noise some women have

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      7 months ago

      If you think romantic relationships are just sex+friendship then you’re probably shit at romantic relationships.