MaybeALittleBitWeird

Anything that’s a slower burn tends to be a more satisfying experience in my opinion. Mass market porn is just there when you want to get off quickly, but it’s not a good experience.

Erotica, games, eRP, and actual human chat partners are all massively more satisfying when the time comes. The older I get the stronger that sentiment gets.

I understand 😁 When something hits just right and is paced right it is absolutely days of nonstop horny.

Back when I was a hornier teenager I was on Tumblr a bunch when it was actually in it’s heyday. I really don’t know that I could go back to that life at this point though.

If you’re into the game genre, Tfgames is a database of browser/text games that feature transformation elements. There’s a lot of junk, but it’s still worth checking out!

I enjoy a lot of the pictures on here but not in a way that inspires masturbation. Just enjoy smut in general, interesting and keeps a slow burn, right?

I’m very much the same way. I honestly just appreciate most of what’s posted from an artistic point of view. Otherwise it’s just nice to keep a mild amount of arousal simmering and waiting for the next experience. Makes everything that much more satisfying!

I’ve been at a bit of a crossroads for this as well recently. I don’t really know that I have a go-to anymore. I agree that commercial videos are more of a “just to get off quickly” kind of situation. It always feels more like it takes longer to find a decent video than to actually cum.

If I’m using toys on myself(bi M) I prefer to watch hypnos, but that’s going to be a niche fetish thing that doesn’t work for most. If I’m not using toys, nothing compares to chat/rp with an actual partner.

I like erotica and it’s a much more satisfying experience than videos, but it’s so difficult to find something that I like that doesn’t have bad writing or something weird that’s a turn off. I’m also the type of person who can’t read the same thing twice so even if I find something it’s a one-time experience.

Link is to a deleted post. What did it say?

It doesn’t matter that it’s with a woman. You are, by definition, a cuckold in this scenario.

Edit: Stop being so concerned with definitions and what internet trolls think. Just have a good time with your wife in whatever way that manifests and stop worrying.

I’m was the same way. I knew deep down for most of my life, but it honestly wasn’t until my late 20’s that I really accepted I was bi. My attraction just presented so differently for men that it was difficult for me to ever sit back and really say, okay yes I’m definitely not straight. That and as you say, we live in a heteronormative world and it’s easier to exist when you don’t go against the grain.

what pronouns work for you?

The answer to that question, regardless of who you’re talking about is always the same. Just ask the person. There’s no overarching answer to this besides that because everyone is different.

The mens equivalent of the kegel muscles will engage you lower abdominal muscles when you strongly contract them. This usually only happens when the pelvic floor is pretty weak and/or the person isn’t very on tune with what their body is doing. It could also have been his sexual form and body movement during the act.

Regarding your last point, exercise in general tends to stimulate the bowels to move.

You have to remember that society is always telling you to live your life in a very specific way. Being an awkward teenager is a period where you’re supposed to be confused and finding things out about the world and being an lgbtq teenager is no different. There’s a surplus of teenage hormones that are new and confusing and you may not know what you want.

For lesbian women specifically, it’s not easy to have the entire world telling you your sexuality is just going to be a phase and that one day a big strong man is going to come along and “fix” you because after all “everyone feels those feelings sometimes.”

Disclaimer: I’m not a lesbian woman, just a bi guy with some experience with being confused about my sexuality.

I second what @imadethis said. My ‘type’ and even sexual preferences present differently between genders. To use your example, I find short redheaded women attractive, but generally am actually turned off by redheaded men in general.

I’m going to just be honest - very extremely rarely will the person on the other side of a gloryhole be a cis woman if you’re not setting up a prearranged meeting(that you’re likely to be paying for). I know you say you’re fine with same-sex or non-cis interactions, but I just want to make sure your expectations are set correctly.

If you’re only interested in watching potential interactions you can probably check out your local adult bookstore(sex shop) and see if they have viewing booths set up in the back as they are the most likely to have booths with double-sided gloryholes.

Aside from your local bookstore you can try checking out holehunter.com to see if there’s anything more discreet locally. There can also be private/personal gloryholes advertised on classified sites like Doublelist or cruising apps like Sniffies.

I don’t know much about dogging, but swingers clubs may fill that more social and voyeuristic void for you as well. There’s usually at least one in any given city, but you’re unlikely to get in without a partner.

That going to be tough to find then unless a specific dom(me) content creator suits your famcy. Almost all of the gay content I’ve seen around here is pretty vanilla.

As others have pointed out, other than Yiffit.net for furry content and Lemmyf.uk there isn’t much else. There are probably still a few NSFW islands on Lemmy.world left, but most stopped being active. Personally I’d be interested in a kink focused instance if it existed.

It’s interesting to see this question be asked a second time this week at the same time we get a huge influx of Only fans spammers showing up though.

Most forced bi content heavily overlaps with sissy or cuckold content. Depending on where on that spectrum you are maybe that will work for you.

!sissycaptions@lemmynsfw.com

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I’m sure there are still a handful of NSFW communities on lemmy.world but I never saw them last very long or remain active. All the one’s I was aware of don’t exist any longer.

I disabled NSFW on my general accounts a few months back because I got tired of seeing the spammers I blocked over here all the time so I can’t help too much for anything new that’s cropped up.

That bot exclusively posts communities that are trending on this instance and doesn’t really answer OP’s question.

Lemmyf.uk - I generally have only seen consistent nsfw content from the !sexmemes@lemmyf.uk and !freakychicks@lemmyf.uk (the latter community kind of died in favor of c/gonewild here though)

Pornlemmy was competing with lemmynsfw during the Reddit exodus, but failed to get a decent user base and it looks like they shut the instance down as far as I can tell.

Yiffit.net - An instance devoted to furry NSFW. The active users are kind of small bunch at this point and the sole admin kind of disappeared because of life circumstances, but it’s still online.

I hate to break it to you, but porn isn’t real life.