Why is discord so popular in non-gaming circles? People use it as a shitty, bloated and centralized IRC clone, with the voice fuction being completely ignored.

Defederating brigaders and trolls is necessary to maintain a healthy community. If your instance is defederated from all major instances, perhaps you should look examine what sort of company you keep.

Ah yes, the wacky world of transvestigations, where no women have sharp jaws or broad shoulders.