“Fuck 'em! Fuck 'em all!”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkjbMoj0JY4

How did you guess?

Look you’ve been shot down so many times by so many people, but ‘they’re all wrong and I’m right’ is your take away?

I’m beginning to think troll rather than misguided.

I’ll say it loud so those at the back can hear too:

YOU CAN’T FIGHT RACISM WITH MORE RACISM!

It really is quite simple.

Blocking you seems like the best idea in this thread so far.

Absolutely we all have blind spots, I just think OP’s blind spot is addressing ‘white people’ like none of us live with, and around many cultures, not just races.

If someone were to address my local Polish or Bangladeshi or Muslim or whatever community the same way OP is addressing ‘white people’ in this post I would call it borderline racist and in fact it would fit in OP’s original ‘don’t do’ list.

I appreciate it probably comes from good intentions, but generalizing how entire groups of people should change to suit another group of people is a slippery slope.

As someone interviewed on TV asked; Are these more adverts rather than artworks?

No, but the things they are saying, maybe inadvertently, are starting to seem that way.

Swap ‘black’ and ‘white’ in their do not do list. Does it sound racist now?

As you say, all racism isn’t obvious. A quick look at their post history shows 7 or 8 race related posts recently.

Repeatedly stating white people should do or not do specific things.

This seems to me like the definition of racism at it’s roots.

There’s currently only 1 user that I’ve noticed that keeps bringing race up.

Tit for tat with some forgiving, even more so. I’m attempting the ‘forgiving’ part.

I’m prepared to lose contact with people that are problematic or toxic, especially those with the more radical views, but it’s not nice to watch someone I’ve known for many years gradually lose all their friends for similar reasons.

While I do completely agree with all your points, I don’t see what I can learn from mocking someones ‘wonky lip’ or ‘saggy eye lids’ for example.

And for context, this isn’t a new issue, it’s been brought up a good few times over the last year or so.

No it’s not. It’s how to help someone recognize toxic traits and hope they want to stop.

If they were to see that behavior as toxic but wish to continue with it anyway, that’s fine. It just won’t be around me any more.

Thank you for the excellent response!

The problem seems to be a mental disconnect they just cant overcome.

Immediately after criticizing some racist news story (so not all bad!) they then mocked the reporter or news reader for their appearance.

I pointed out the hypocrisy of that being just the same as how racism starts. I don’t think it sunk in in any meaningful way though.

Based on many other things, and that was my first response too, I don’t think they are capable of self reflection enough for that to sink in.

Seems to be a worrying trend these days.

I tried that kind of approach yesterday.

Their response was to mock someone else on TV.

I’ve mentioned it a couple of times now. Last time I told them even if they cant see the issue with it, it bothers me and other people, so cut it out.

The response was something like “yeah other person says that to me too”.

That’s when I start to wonder why I bothered.

So an amputation heals faster? Fast enough? Must have been some injury!

To be fair, that is true!

We are each in our own simulated ‘reality’ of whats going on out there.

Perhaps it wold be nice if people could ‘re-calibrate’ their ‘realities’ sometimes?

It’s strange isn’t it? It ‘seems obvious’ but there’s such resistance, and not just from those who benefit from the status quo.