Of all of your interests, what is one that would be a “confession” to someone you’re in a new relationship with. When I say confession, I don’t mean a “Lets sit down and talk” thing, but something you’re hesitant to say immediately and would maybe be a little nervous about.
Mine would probably be my natural submissiveness to women. I’m switch but being submissive clicks with me mentally in a way that being dominant doesn’t. Many women I’ve known are submissive, so telling them I’m submissive to them would be something I’d be nervous about.
M - Rape fetish. That’s something that wouldn’t come up for a loooooooooong time and only if I had some inkling that it wouldn’t trigger anything or blow up in my face or that she already had some fantasies like that. I guess it’s a somewhat common fantasy for some women too, but given the potentially violent nature of it, I wouldn’t want to open up some old trauma or give them the wrong idea. It’s weird to think about anyways, “Hey, I want you to pretend like you don’t want sex with me, but you’re going to let me have it anyways.” Like, wtf?
Depending on how you two meet it could be very hard or very easy. If you meet them in a sexual setting and they’re submissive, it’s pretty easy. If you meet them in a regular setting and they’re vanilla, it’s much more intimidating to find that out.