Of all of your interests, what is one that would be a “confession” to someone you’re in a new relationship with. When I say confession, I don’t mean a “Lets sit down and talk” thing, but something you’re hesitant to say immediately and would maybe be a little nervous about.

Mine would probably be my natural submissiveness to women. I’m switch but being submissive clicks with me mentally in a way that being dominant doesn’t. Many women I’ve known are submissive, so telling them I’m submissive to them would be something I’d be nervous about.

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    2 months ago

    I think it’s good to get people’s sexualities out in the open before the relationship even begins. Like, I’m a bottom and I simply don’t fuck women (in a conventional sense). Gay guys are more understanding. It’s kind of a big deal and I wouldn’t want to lead with false assumptions.

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      2 months ago

      It’s been a while since I’ve dated. But when I did, it was tough to bring up sex early because it could be interpreted as I only wanted sex. Or…it could be agreeing on what we like.

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        I put my sexual preferences in my dating profiles and I make sure I’m as direct as the setting allows. I can’t understand people who are coy about their sexuality. Mismatching sexuality is absolutely a dealbreaker. I recently spent an entire day with a guy who suddenly decided he wasn’t gay. Could have saved me the trouble.